20 Wedding Rules You Should Definitely Follow (No, Really)

Hey, we're all for rule breaking... most of the time. While there are plenty old-school rules that need not apply to today's weddings, there are some guidelines you should pretty much stick to no matter what. So, whether you're a wedding guest, bride, or groom, here are twenty-two rules you should definitely follow.

 Don’t invite someone to a pre-wedding party if you don't plan on inviting them to the wedding. 

Inviting someone to your shower and not the big day? That's a no-no (and it's likely to lead to seriously hurt feelings).  

Instead, add your registry to your wedding website and include a link on your save the date and invitation. You never want to look like you're soliciting gifts... 

A little bit of thought goes a long way. And the same goes for thank you's!

Yes, even if they've already told you they can't make it on the big day. Not sending an invitation suggests that they are no longer invited, and that's surely not the case.

It'll make them feel truly welcome. Of course, if you're simply offering someone a plus one and don't know who they'll bring, "and Guest" is fine. 

Your RSVP return card should include postage. 

It's common courtesy to pre-stamp your RSVP envelopes or postcards so guests don't need to purchase postage to send their reply. 

Check the laws in your state, and be sure to get your marriage license before the big day. The window is often relatively small, so make sure not to get it too early either.

Always feed your wedding vendors. 

From your wedding planner to the band, your vendors are working hard for you all day long and with very few breaks. Make sure to speak to your caterer about supplying them with meals.

No ifs, ands, or buts! A thoughtful handwritten note is always best. 

 Don't RSVP "yes" if there is a chance you won't be able to make it to the wedding. 

If you're uncertain or need more time, have an honest conversation with the couple. An empty "yes' can cause major headcount headaches.

That way the couple can include his or her name on the guest list, escort cards, and any other printed materials.

If nothing else, make sure it's sent by the RSVP date listed on the invitation.

If the invitation specially says no children allowed, don't ask if you can bring your kids. 

Feel free to reach out to the couple about local babysitters or other childcare options. If it's unclear if children are invited or not, you may just need to politely ask.

Unless the couple has given you the green light, the only people invited to the wedding are those addressed on the envelope. 

If you don't get a plus one, don't bring a plus one. 

If your invitation doesn't say "and Guest," then it's safe to assume that you've been invited solo. You're best off not asking the couple to make exceptions. 

It's just common courtesy, right? 

Sure, everyone's excited to party. But your presence at the actual "I dos" is a must. 

While some couples may be okay with smartphone photos, turn off the flash sound, ringer, alarms, vibration, and any other disruptive alert.

White is reserved for the bride. Steer clear of whites, creams, and ivories unless the couple has specifically given you the go ahead.  

Make the most of the open bar, but know your limits. Don't cause a scene at the wedding and be sure you can get yourself home safely at the end of the night.