How to Deal When It Feels Like Everyone is RSVPing “No”
Guests are (finally) starting to send back their RSVP cards for your wedding, and, much to your disappointment, it seems like most of them have checked the “No” box. What gives?
It’s easy to feel bummed when you’re getting lots of “Regretfully Declines,” but there’s a silver lining (or seven)! So here is how to deal when wedding RSVP’s start rolling in:
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Let’s be honest… Are you really that bummed that your aunt’s second cousin won’t be there? Double and triple check that your VIPs — your siblings, besties, and favorite relatives — won’t back out. You won’t feel as disappointed when your nearest and dearest are there to celebrate you.
Fewer guests means fewer tables and chairs, fewer entrees, fewer favors — all the sudden, you might have some more budget to work with! Take this as an opportunity to splurge on something you really wanted, like extra desserts, a fancy limo, or a special excursion for your honeymoon.
If you have a B-list on the back burner or didn’t plan on letting guests bring dates, you can probably fit them in. You’ll need to consider who you’re extending the invitations to and how soon the wedding is (you don’t want to look rude…). But if you have friends or plus ones who know they couldn’t be accommodated because of budget or space limitations, they’ll likely be understanding and appreciative of the invitation.
If your guest list got cut from 150 to 75 guests, you might be able to alter your plans to make the whole event more intimate (just make sure to check in with your vendors ASAP). See if you can rearrange your ceremony layout so that everyone sits a little closer to the aisle, or switch from plated meals to a family style dinner.
With fewer guests, you won’t have as hard a time trying to say hello to everybody. Now you can forget about the sometimes dreaded receiving line and instead go from table to table greeting everyone — and maybe even having real conversations!
If you weren’t planning on inviting children, a freed-up guest list means you can fit them in. (Of course, if you didn’t want kids attending for a reason other than capacity or cost, you still don’t have to invite them!) Better yet, thanks to the wiggle room in your budget, you can hire a babysitter so the parents can enjoy your wedding reception.
Think you’ll have lots of uneaten food? Don’t let it go to waste! Make a plan to package it all up and take it home, send it with your wedding party or donate it to a food pantry.
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