5 Ways to Prepare to Meet Your S.O.’s Parents

Are you meeting your significant other’s parents for the first time? If so, congratulations! This is a huge first step into the right direction and we’re here for you every step of the way.  Empathically you’re nervous, and we’re here to alleviate all of that. Here are 5 helpful ways to prepare to meet your S.O’s parents!

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1. Learn the family’s dining style. Some families have a formal affair where they pull out the fine china, while others have a low-key get-together where they eat dinner while watching football. Ask your partner for some insight so you know what to expect (and of course, what to wear). You don’t want to be overly dressed up or too casual.

2. Ask your S.O. for a brief family history. If your partner’s Thanksgiving celebration involves extended family, you might want to get a few details on who’s going to be there and if there are any family dynamics you need to know about. You wouldn’t want to be the one to ask about an ex-communicated cousin. Awkward…

3. Plan some talking points. Since making conversation with a new crew can be tough, have a few talking points in the back of your mind. Try brainstorming topics for specific family members and topics for a bigger group.

4. Discuss potentially uncomfortable questions with your partner. Parents and family members love to ask couples uncomfortable questions—they’re going to want to know when you’re tying the knot, having kids, and buying a house. You and your S.O. don’t necessarily need to make these big decisions before the holiday, but it’s a good idea to have a game plan for answering them. That way, neither of you will be surprised.

5. Bring something! Debating whether or not to bring a gift for the hosts? Do it! It’s a great way to show your gratitude (and it’ll make for an excellent first impression). Just ask your partner for a little guidance on this one: You don’t want to bring a bottle of wine if nobody in the family drinks or an apple pie if they always eat grandma’s homemade one.

It may sound simple, but don’t forget it: Be yourself. Your partner loves you for you, and they want their family to see the real you. Relax and enjoy the holiday!