15 Ways to Incorporate Loved Ones Into Your Ceremony

If family and friends mean the world to you and your other half, you’re probably looking for ways to get them involved in your big day!

From the bridal party to the ceremony readers, here are the roles your nearest and dearest can play in your wedding ceremony:

Best Man. Basically, the groom’s right hand man. The Best Man is traditionally a close friend or family member of the groom who is there to help lead the groomsmen on the big day and support the groom in any way he can prior to and on the day of the wedding. Traditionally you’ll have just one.

Bridesmaid. A bridesmaid is a friend or family member of the bride, and is part of her entourage on the big day. Bridesmaids typically host a shower or event before the wedding, get ready with the bride on the day, walk down the aisle before her, and partake as a member of the wedding party. You can have as many as you’d like. 

Groomsman. The bridesmaid equivalent for the groom. Groomsmen are there to help support the groom and help him celebrate the wedding day. You can have as many as you’d like. 

Eucharistic minister. In the Catholic church, this is a person who helps administer the communion during mass. Depending on the size of your church, you’ll need 2-6 eucharistic ministers. 

Flower Girl. A child who walks down the aisle before the bride and usually tosses flower petals. You can have as many as you’d like. 

Guest book attendant. A person who stands near the guest book and asks guests to leave messages for the bride and groom. Typically you’ll need just one. 

Huppah Carrier. At a Jewish wedding, huppah carriers are people close to the bride or groom who carry the huppah poles during the ceremony. Four people needed. 

Maid of Honor. An un-married woman who has a special relationship with the bride. The Maid of Honor is a member of the bridal party who has more responsibility on the big day and helps calm the bride while keeping the other bridesmaids on schedule. She’ll also help support the bride leading up to and on the day of the wedding. Typically you’ll need just one. 

Matron of Honor. A Matron of Honor is the same thing as the Maid of Honor, except the woman is married. Typically you’ll need just one, although you can have a Maid and a Matron of honor if you’d like.

Musician. If your family and friends have special musical talents, ask them to perform during your ceremony. You can have as many as you’d like. 

Officiant. The person who performs the ceremony. Must be legally certified to perform a marriage to be accepted by law. Just one will do. 

Reader. A person who reads a verse or passage during your ceremony. We’d suggest 1-3 readers.

Ring Bearer. A young child who carries the rings down the aisle. Just one will do, but you can have more than one as well. 

Train bearer. Young children who hold the end of the bride’s train while she walks down the aisle. 2-4 children needed. 

Usher. A person who helps guests find their seat during the ceremony. They will often pass out programs as well. Depending on the size of your ceremony, 2-4 ushers will be needed. 

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Alexia Conley

Alexia is a Loverly contributor and wedding enthusiast. Based in Raleigh, North Carolina, she loves strong coffee, social media, and new adventures.