How To Include Mom In Your Wedding Day

Getting married is a huge milestone for a mother and daughter. Finding a way to include and celebrate your own mom throughout your wedding day is a key part of wedding planning. We spoke to a handful of wedding vendors and experts to get their tips  on how to include your mother in your wedding day.

Photo by Valorie Darling Photography

Valorie Darling of Valorie Darling Photography says, “I love when brides incorporate their mother’s wedding day fashion into their own big day. Whether it’s redesigning her gown or wearing her veil, there are so many ways to honor her and it doubles as the perfect “something borrowed”. It’s those special traditions that make for sentimental, quiet moments in the day that you’ll remember forever and turn into beautiful captures as well.”

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Event Design by Feathered Arrow Events, Photo by Sposto Photography

“There are so many ways to include your mom on your big day whether for the bride or for the groom. For the bride, have your mom help you put your dress on or your jewelry. These are always sweet photos of a mother/daughter moment. For guys, let your mom pin your boutonniere on your suit. Again, this is a special moment the two of you can have before everything starts and makes them feel special!” says Kari Dirksen of Feathered Arrow Events.

Liza Roeser Atwood, CEO of FiftyFlowers.com shares, “Deciding on your wedding flowers can be tough, especially when there are so many beautiful flowers to choose from! Your mom can surely help with the decision making. This would be great opportunity to incorporate her favorite flower into your bouquet.”

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Event Design by Tyler Speier Events, Photo by James & Jess Photography

Tyler Speier of Tyler Speier Events says, “There are so many special ways you can honor your mom on your wedding day – after all, she is one of the main guests of honor (and is often hosting at least a part of your wedding!). I love when brides and grooms write their moms heartfelt, handwritten notes and deliver them on the morning of the wedding day. I also love when brides and grooms give their moms special jewelry to wear on the wedding day. This not only makes them feel extra special on the day of the wedding but then gives them a timeless piece they can wear in the future and remember your special day!”

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Stationery by Momental Designs, Photo by Swoon Over It Photography

Have a special sign made for the Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom for the reception. Draw special attention with beautifully designed signs on their chairs, even adorned with flowers, to make the ladies who raised you feel honored on your wedding day!”, Kristy Rice of Momental Designs shares. 

Gina Jokilehto-Schigel of Shi Shi Events says, “Mothers love to help their daughters get into their dress. Let her zip or button your gown, adjust your veil or tie your sash and soak in a private moment just the two of you before dad gets his first look.”

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Event Design by Vanessa Noel Events, Photo by Emily & Steven Photography 

Vanessa Vierra of Vanessa Noel Events suggests, “Putting on the dress is a big moment for moms! Your bridesmaids get a lot of glory later in the day so reserve a moments before you get dressed to give your mom a gift or heartfelt note and let her be the one to zip you into your gown.  And who says there’s just a Father-daughter dance? Pick a special girl power song to dedicate to your mom during the reception and share a dance just with her.” 

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Event Design by Infinite Events, Photo by Katie Slate Photography

“We always love to have our brides present their bouquet to their moms on their wedding day instead of throwing it for the bouquet toss or they include them in the walk down the aisle, that’s always a tearjerker!” says Erica Trombetti of Infinite Events

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Photo by Valorie Darling Photography

Lesley Smith of Ceremony App shares, “Enlist Mom As A Behind-The-Scenes Photographer. When your mother has some “down time”, ask her to snap some extra candid shots with a photo-sharing app like Ceremony. She’s going to have a different eye than anyone else (probably knows all of your smiles) and can help you collect those special moments the professional photographer might miss.”